I observed Randy as he would bounce past the gentleman only to
stop right in front of him, bending over a little in order to catch a glimpse
of the man’s eye. The old man ignored the little boy completely, looking away
and not acknowledging his presence. Then off Randy would go to the other end of
the row and back, only to stop smack in front of the grumpy old man again,
trying to lure him into his happy, bouncy world. After the fifth or sixth time
the old man finally gave in: a smile appeared, giving his wrinkled, weathered
face a sudden sunny expression. He stretched out his open hand, palm up, for
the little boy to smack with his little fist. Both were beaming as only victorious
conspirators can. After having accomplished his objective, Randy found other
interests in the arrivals hall until the moment his grandparents arrived.
I was the only one who noticed this seemingly
insignificant incident and it has stayed with me through the years. Why would
the experience strike me as meaningful? The reason I think the episode is
etched in my memory is that it is illustrative of a specific application of the
universal principle most of us have heard of before: the law of attraction, or
put another way: like attracts like. Now, before you start thinking that this
is old news because you know all about the law of attraction, stay with me for
a bit to see how this incident shed a new light on this law. Working with the
law of attraction doesn’t only mean reaping the positive results of previous
positive actions; the law of attraction also works on the spot. In fact, it is
especially suited to be applied on the spot. As the example shows, when you look for only the good and the lovely – you can expect to see
the good and the lovely. This principle makes for an outstanding practical
spiritual tool. The following example shows how it works.
At 10 am on Saturday morning Jamie gets up and
goes to the kitchen to fetch himself some breakfast. Suddenly he realizes that
he’s running late for soccer practice, so he grabs his sports gear and rushes
out to hitch a ride with a friend, leaving everything on the counter top. After
seeing him off, his mom, Lee-Ann, enters the kitchen only to be appalled at the
mess she finds there: eggs, bacon and butter still on the counter, a greasy pan
and spatula lying around as well as a dirty plate and tableware. How often have
I asked him to clear up after himself, she thinks to herself, as she starts to clean
up. But then she thinks of the tool look
for only the good and the lovely and she pauses a moment. Then she puts the
perishables where they belong and she stacks the dirty dishes on the side.
Later that day when Jamie comes home, Lee-Ann
asks him how soccer practice went. She comments on his continued commitment to
the team and on his determination to give the best of himself (a.k.a. the good and the lovely !). While she is
saying these things she walks over to the kitchen, asking him if he’d like a
cold drink and a snack. Jamie follows her and sits at the table to have his
drink and snack. Then Lee-Ann, still listening to Jamie talking about his soccer
team and commenting positively, walks over to the corner of the counter top
where the dirty dishes stand waiting. She takes them to the sink and casually
says: “Please help me with this,” handing him a brush. And together they clean
up, while chatting about things that matter to Jamie. Then Jamie says: “I’m
sorry I left the dishes on the counter, mom, but I was really in a hurry.”
“That’s all right, honey, that happens sometimes. I know you mean well, and you
did clean up, didn’t you?”
Will Jamie always remember to clean up after
himself after a late weekend breakfast? Probably not. But his mom’s effort to look for and focus on the good and the lovely and her
stubbornness to focus on that exclusively, will bring her message across far
more effectively than a reprimand would.
No matter how upsetting the situation may
appear, zoom in on the good and the
lovely, ignoring all testimony to the contrary. It is your addressing the good and the lovely that
opens the door that lets in the light and welcomes hope, turning the tables in
seemingly depressing circumstances. Whether it’s your toddler-nephew, your own
teenage child, or a student in your care: apply the law of attraction on the
spot by looking for and addressing the
good and the lovely. You’ll discover that by doing so you’ve let in fresh
air and created room for all involved to give the best of themselves. When you
look for only the good, you can expect to experience it, too.
inspirational story...and it works! sometimes when in doubt I ask myself: in what world do I want to live...? yes, the world of the good and the lovely...so let's go for it!
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